Why I love oxytocin.

You’re in labour. Your baby will probably be born in a matter of hours, while your body will do the most incredible thing it’s ever done. But what is actually going on?

Well, it’s all orchestrated by this amazing chemical called oxytocin, which is often nicknamed ‘the love hormone’ – I’ll explain why later on.

This fascinating hormone is coursing around your blood stream, telling your uterus to contract, which pulls your cervix up and open during the first stage of labour, and pushes your baby out during the second stage.

Every contraction sends a message to your brain to send more oxytocin, which causes another surge of power in what is now the largest muscle in your body. But even when your baby’s been born, oxytocin doesn’t just stop working! In fact, oxytocin is an important hormone in many other areas of our lives, not just labour.

Long before you even got pregnant, it’s likely you’ve had many a time made far more pleasant by its presence: it’s released in huge quantities in the weeks we’re falling in love; we get a boost of it whenever we have skin-to-skin contact with someone we care about; and we get a massive shot of it when we have an orgasm.

Oxytocin’s job in these situations is to help you form relationships and build trust between two people, hence the nickname ‘the love hormone’. Without it, you wouldn’t be able to fall in love.

So what causes it to be released? Well, apart from when you’re in labour, when it’s part of the amazing positive feedback loop I’ve already explained, it’s mostly that skin-to-skin contact with someone we care about that does the trick.

Even larger quantities are released if that skin-to-skin contact involves particular areas of your body which are super-sensitive to touch – ear-lobes, genitals, and nipples.

Which brings me back to your labour and birth. Your baby may well be born straight onto your tummy, skin-to-skin, which means more oxytocin. But – get this – your baby’s hands and face are likely to be near one of your nipples, so that gets a whole lot of touch too, stimulating even more oxytocin.

And as you haven’t quite finished the process of birth yet – your placenta still needs to be born – that oxytocin is really important because it keeps your uterus contracting so that the placenta can detach from the uterine wall and be pushed out of your body.

Of course, all that oxytocin is also helping you to fall in love with your baby and helping your baby, who is also getting an oxcytocic rush, fall in love with you. This is what we all call ‘bonding’.

As if the poor hormone didn’t have enough to do – making labour happen, helping you bond – it also has a vital role to play in breastfeeding. When you hold your baby close, and particularly when your baby is suckling at the breast, the resulting oxytocin causes the milk ducts within your breasts to open, and let the milk flow towards your nipple so that your baby can get to it. We call this a let-down, and breastfeeding doesn’t work without it.

So now you know why oxytocin is such an important, exciting hormone, and you know how to get more of it, so get cuddling!

This blog post first appeared on  7 September 2011 at Double Helping Doulas.

Image: thepriapisticpress, Flickr

The baby soft-skin positive feedback loop

 Why we can’t resist touching our babies

A positive feedback loop is like the opposite of a ‘vicious cycle’ or ‘downward spiral’. Essentially something happens, which makes something else happen, which makes the first thing happen more and so on. The baby soft-skin positive feedback loop (which, as far as I know, I’ve completely made up the title for!) goes like this:

As well as making us what to feed our babies, skin-to-skin contact has some other benefits as well:

  • It helps your baby to latch onto the breast well
  • It helps your baby regulate his temperature – if your baby is too warm, your body cools to cool your baby; if your baby is too cold, your body warms to warm your baby
  • It helps to stabilise your baby’s heart rate, breathing rate, and blood pressure
  • It helps your baby to keep his blood sugars high
  • It helps to keep your baby calm and cry less
  • All the above means that your baby can use the energy he gets from your breast milk or formula milk to grow and thrive
  • It helps you and your baby fall in love with each other, as you both release oxytocin when you have skin-to-skin contact
There are omega-3 fatty acids added to formula milk as well, by the way, in case you’re wondering how you get the soft-skin feedback loop if you don’t breastfeed.